Assisting Children Cope with Divorce
Your child’s reaction to divorce will depend on his or her age, personality, and the particular circumstances of your divorce case.
However, for most children, the initial reaction to hearing of divorce is shock, sadness, frustration, or worry.
As a parent, you can help your child through this adjustment by staying involved in his or her life and minimizing disruptions to his or her daily routine.
Once you and your spouse file for divorce, you need to talk to your children about your decision to live in separate houses.
It can be helpful for you and your spouse to break the news together, as this shows unity as a family. Before speaking with your children, you and your spouse should practice the conversation and discuss how you will react to their questions.
The most important message to convey is that your decision to divorce has nothing to do with them.
When you have this conversation, your kids will likely be upset. You need to assure your children that having these feelings is completely understandable and that you care about their feelings.
Remember that not every child will react immediately. You may notice your kids becoming very quiet or experiencing increased stress at school or having difficulty sleeping at night.
During this time, be prepared to answer questions about whom they will live with, where they will go to school, and how else their life might change.
Divorce is a very stressful process, especially if you are also dealing with custody issues.
To keep your family healthy, you need to find healthy ways to manage your stress.
Staying physically and emotionally healthy will help you be in the best shape to help your children through this adjustment.
If you have decided to file for divorce, it’s important to seek attorney assistance.
A divorce attorney can help ensure your divorce is fair and help minimize the chance of future litigation.