Co-Parenting Mistakes and How to Avoid Them
Co-parenting after divorce is no easy task, and while no parent may intentionally mean to make it difficult and create drama, it is still a common occurrence.
Unfortunately, this could make it even more difficult for children to adjust to the new changes happening to their family.
If your goal is to lean toward a more civil and drama-free relationship with your ex so you can be successful parents for your children, here are some co-parenting mistakes you should be sure to avoid.
Withholding Information About Your Child From The Other Parent
Trying to purposefully avoid seeing your ex by not communicating with them about your child’s sporting activity or school event is definitely not the best path to take.
If your ex ends up finding out that you intentionally did not tell them about an upcoming event, there could be a lot of anger and resentment, and they may end up doing the same thing to you.
Fighting in Front Of The Kids
This is one of the worst things that any parent can do, divorced or not.
Your kids are already going through the trauma of watching their parents split up – there’s no reason they need to be in the middle of it all. Save your exchanges for when they are out of ear shot.
Changing Schedule Often
When you’re a co-parent, having a flexible schedule is one of the benefits, and having a cooperative spouse makes it that much better, especially if you have work demands or a social event that disrupts your normal visitation schedule.
If your ex is willing to rearrange the visitation schedule to accommodate your needs, appreciate it and do not take advantage of it.
Always call ahead if you will be late and never just assume you can change things up last minute.
Your ex has a life too, and being twenty minutes late all the time could be disrupting it.
Asking Your Kids About Their Time Away
This can sometimes be done without purposefully doing so, but either way it’s not a good move. It’s natural to wonder what your child is up to while at the other parent’s house, but if you are having concerns you should not try and get information out of your children.
It may make them feel like they are betraying the other parent or providing information to you that could lead to an argument and they may feel like it is their fault.
A quick “how was your weekend?” conversation is fine but keep it short and sweet, especially if you and the other parent are not on good terms.
In any case of divorce, your best strategy is to have an experienced Arizona divorce lawyer on your side to help you decipher the complexities of divorce and prepare you for what you will be facing.